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Each week, in the state of Oklahoma, 102 lives are lost to an abortion decision. That means 102 women who are silently suffering with a decision made and a child lost.
Some women are in a bad relationship or no relationship at all with the father of the baby. They fear parenting alone. They don't want to raise a fatherless child.
When a young woman is still in school, high school or college, they can't see how to parent and finish school.
Many women feel that the expense of a baby is more than they can afford. They feel that if they cannot provide the material things needed that the baby would suffer.
Many young couples search the internet for answers to their questions and get false or misleading information about pregnancy, parenting, abortion, program availability, and financial issues.
Insurance availability is a huge concern. Many women work part time jobs and do not carry medical insurance. They don't know where to go or who to ask about prenatal care and delivery costs.
We are looking for 102 people to COMMIT to raising $200 during our Virtual Glow In The Park fundraising event. Our fall fundraiser is a necessary part of our annual funding. Without a successful fall fundraiser, we simply will not meet our budget. We need participants. We need people to raise funds on our behalf. We need to raise our goal of $50,000 so we can continue to provide all of the life-affirming services to our community!
How do we properly discuss the topic of adoption? What are phrases and words that have given adoption a bad wrap? Why is adoption a last resort option? How do we speak about adoption?
We must recognize and accept that while our desire is for LIFE to be the choice of every pregnancy...not every woman is prepared to successfully parent a baby. By including adoption as a legitimate option, the mother is provided another way to parent. Providing ways to support their decision for life can include prenatal support, proper connections to adoption pathways that fit their specific needs, helping as the delivery date draws near, and following up with support after birth.
What are the barriers to adoption? Lack of adoption education. Family influence. Peer pressure. Perceived cultural beliefs. Desire to maintain a relationship with the baby's father, even if that is an unhealthy relationship.
Incorrect terms -- "Give up for adoption" "Real parents" "Unwed mother"
Correct terms -- "Choose to parent through an adoption plan" "Birth parents" "Single parent"
By using accurate language we can provide accurate options and help empower women to make a decision not only for herself but for her baby.
Women need other women. SLS provides a safe and inviting place for women to talk with our nurse or other trained staff about her unique situation. Loving counsel is provided while tough questions are answered with honesty.
Proper connections are important. We listen and understand each individual need of our clients. Sometimes they are in need of things beyond our scope at SLS. We connect them with other local programs that can benefit their needs. It could be helping with insurance, applying for assistance, connecting with housing options, information to local physicians, working with school counselors, or connecting clients with the proper guidance for school related decisions.
We have the joy of offering free ultrasounds to our clients. This simple medical tool provides amazing medical information such as gestation and viability. The ultrasound is the first introduction to her child and can be very emotional. The sound of a heartbeat, the curve of the spinal cord, and the kicking of feet...
Through all the stages of pregnancy, women have emotional changes, not just physical changes. We pair expecting mothers with mentors who walk with them through the pregnancy and remain through the first year of the baby's life. These relationships help prepare the client for delivery and bringing baby home. The client has full control of the topics she discusses and learns about while in the program. There are over 300 topics to choose from including like skills, development of baby, bible study opportunities, medical information for mother and baby, relationship building, job preparation, school completion, and many more. We now have access to a full library of virtual courses so even when a client can't meet with her mentor, she can still continue her learning process.
While in our mentor program, the girls are earning time to "shop" for all of the essentials that baby will need. Items provided are: Maternity clothing, cribs (full size and/or pack and plays), mattress, car seats, strollers, clothing, diapers, formula, layette, hand made keep-sake quilt, wipes, diaper cream, and many more items! So many women fear the initial expense which is a reason that causes them to contemplate an abortion. In this program, they are not only learning how to parent but earning what they need while doing so.
Many of our clients are walking through a pregnancy alone. When a birth father is involved, we try to connect him with a mentor as well. Parenting, co-parenting, and learning how to love the mother of his baby are critical in this process. Relationship skills, parenting advice, seeing and understanding the role of a father are things men learn while in the mentor program. Men need other men. A lot of men did not have fathers present to learn from growing up. They need someone to care enough to walk them through it.